I like your style, Snoop. I mean, I figured homegirl was into females, which, if I may digress, seems to be a certain thing with Black Lesbians. I noticed that, at least in the hood, there are Black Lesbians that are fucking DIMEPIECES (aka homegirl on the left), that are done up very nice and are very lady-like. The thing is, they seem to gravitate to chicks who are like, well, Snoop: lesbians who dress like niggas. I mean, no disrespect, but some of these Black Lesbians are more hood that niggas on the block are! Timbs, doo rags, baggy jeans, the whole nine. I don't notice this as much with White Lesbians (a lot of time, the more "butch" females seem to dig/attract other butch females). Like I said, I'm not sure about the burbs or the country, but in the hoods that I live near and grew up in, that seemed to always be the case. Makes you wonder: do the butch Black Lesbians fuck like niggas, too? Like, are they throwing strap-ons and talkin' slick to these ladies, or what?Via YBF.
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I have noticed it to a certain extent also. To each their own but these "thug lezbins" take it to a level of caricature.. they over emphasis their place in the relationship and take on a unneeded aggressive attitude. So what u want to be a man it seems like u also have a mental instability.. chill out. Dont meant to hate but u look ridiculous next to a fine sister while you stand there acting a fool.
i feel you on that. i hate turning this into a fucking jerry springer episode, but yeah, i wonder if some of these chicks don't just WANT to be dudes. i remember seeing springer once, and the chick dressed (and looked) like a dude, and even had a sock in her briefs. i mean, is it just not wanting to get a sex change or is their whole relationship based on wanting everything a nigga has EXCEPT a dick?
Don't judge a book by its cover. The way that someone may dress is not to say who they really are. Don't get caught up in the hype of the clothes.
i feel you, b_more, but its not always just the clothes. a lot of the time its the whole swagger. most black lesbians who rock styles like guys do also have the same demeanor as dudes. they will greet you with a "wassup nigga", as more lady-like females don't normally come at you like that. i hate stereotyping, but just think of Snoop in The Wire. that's a lot of black lesbian females in the hood.
This is crazy..my 19 year old daughter is stud, lesbian and she seems to have the thought pattern of a dude. She wears her pants baggy and her hair, though it's long, she braids it like Snoop or wears it like Ludacris, when his hair was wild! I think in her mind, she thinks she's a dude. She wears the big belt buckles and large polo shirts. I talked to her about it before and she says, she can't help it the way she is. She thinks she's another one, "trapped in the wrong body."
oh..and we're not from the hood!
I have two female friends who are lesbians. One is a stud and the other is the female. Both of them have told me that their relationships with the other woman is based on the same principles as a man and a woman. They have sex just as we would except they use a strap on. They both have a history of being raped when they were children, so perhaps this has something to do with their choice. The stud female dresses like a man and she does this to attract the female. Most females do not want to be with someone just like them, but to each his own. I am strictly about the D.
@Anonymous - wow ok so this isn't something that's strictly regulated to the hood, eh? That was my main question - I grew up in Trenton, NJ, which is a rough city, and that's what i've seen among Black Lesbians.
In terms of why a female would rock her clothes that way, I dunno. To each his own; I'm more intrigued, that's all. I don't knock anyone for how they get down!
@anon2 - ah ok. i feel what you are saying; it makes sense, the whole "they don't want to be with someone who looks like them"... i just wonder: in porno flicks, you usually see two very attractive white females getting it on with each other, yet this isn't necessarily something i've seen or heard black women doing. a lot of the cliches are either the more masculine females with the more feminine females, at least with Black women.
Again, to each their own - do what you wanna do, booboo, it's just interesting. i could go on about the idea of the women who still want that feeling of a man without having to BE with a man, but that's not really my place. i bet there have been some romance novelists who have gone deeper into that territory!
I think there is a difference between lesbians from the city and the ones from the suburbs. And color isn’t the defining factor. Today, these so called young studs try and perpetrate like they are “butches” by the style of clothes, language and this attitude of control they have a tendency to manifest. They think it’s cool. Look most of these studs are butch on the outside and femme on the inside. The real studs are the lipstick lesbians. See, most of the time, they are the ones with the careers, cash, and homes. And most of them are the ones holding it down in bed. Yes, I hate to say it… they are on top! This is not to say there aren’t still some “ole timers” who understand the game and know what it really meant to be a butch. And these modern day studs should look to them for enlightening.
The difference between the “hood” and “subs” is change. The subs have adopted the fact that in today’s society women do not have to play a role. We can just love women. We do not have to portray a 50’s lifestyle where the men rule the house. Women today are stronger. We have chosen to be women who love women without roles, labels and/or stereotypes.
Keep in mind, how you carry yourself is a reflection of who you are emotionally which includes your unhappiness as much as your happiness. My father always says, “Women put on powder and paint to make them look like what they ain’t.” I think he has a point.
I am a black woman strickly on the D, and I think that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I can't help but to remember always being approached by other women It didn't bother me because I just can't imagine it in my mind.
I don't think that there's anything wrong with being in love with someone of the same race as long as they are both happy and satisfied in bed. I must say that mens now in days are just not bringing it.
" I must say that mens now in days are just not bringing it."
that's the thing i don't get... i can understand the "men are dogs"/"men ain't shit" mentality, and how that might be a reason that some females look towards relationships with other women. but where is the attraction to a female who basically dresses and acts like a dude? if nigga's ain't shit, why you dealing with a dickless nigga?
As a white girl not from the hood I only gotta say that people can be haters. Just cause YOU may not like the way a "brot--HER" is dressing and acting don't mean you have to hang around them. Some females are looking to be with a Stud cuz they want the boi NOT a Boy. Don't disrepect what you don't understand. . .it's not a color thing it's a gay thing.
who is hating or disrespecting? I was tryin to understand...
Some of y'all questions can be answered in the comment section of this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iZl04F0bm4U
This entire blog is hilarious and based upon pure and utter ignorance. I am a 21 year old stud living in Atl, Ga. I have been in a relationship with a "femme" for over 3 1/2 years. SO IMMA BREAK THIS DOWN IN NUMBERS OF IMPORTANCE FOR YALL
#1) I have never been raped neither has my girlfriend. We have both had successful relationships with men prior to our relationships with women.
#2) City/Suburbs: Everyone is a product of their environment, just as men who grew up in the projects or men who grew up in the suburbs and went on to college. They are exact opposites.
#3) We do not have sex like str8 couples. In fact contrary to popular belief 90% of true lesbian couples do not use strap-ons or toys during sex, if they do its few and far in between.
#4) Black lesbians are not limited to roles or limited in only "stud n femme" relationships..please see www.downelink.com and do your research.
#5) I do not hate men and I do NOT envy men. I DO NOT want or desire to be a man. I have 2 cars, an apartment, a great job, and a great relationship. Those things I mentioned a lot of men do not have.
#6)The reason why studs like me or studs like snoop can pull girls like the girl in the picture is because we actually have something genuine to offer to woman/lady, not just the thought of her "jumping on my dick". please lol
#7) Most true lesbians are born that way.
#8) To the woman who says she is strickly dickly, let me ask u a question, "what do u most look forward to during sex with your man, him eating ur pussy to get it wet just to put his dick in or the actual intercourse part?" My point exactly, and he only got the thought of eating your pussy from LESBIANS!!! Men did not come up with eating pussy thats a lesbian thing. just like men did not come up with anal sex, thats a GAY THING!!
#9) When str8 women come up to me and ask me about lesbian sex, 99% of them say that the "dick" they get from a MAN is boring and figure that a lesbian like me, a stud, can give them advice to spice up THEIR sex life with their man. lol another laugh.
#10) To Khal: Please take notes from Oprah and do your research, do not look at "the wire" and think thats the way true studs are. Try interviewing five studs and see what you get. I live a stud life everyday, too bad you cant try it.
Last but not least, the REAL reason why so many women are "turning lesbian" is because women or us studs are all different, but you "niggas" are all the same.
lol "wassup nigga"...yea right...
THIS BLOG IS THE SAME BLOG WHITE MEN HAVE ABOUT BLACK MEN ONLY DIFFERENT ADJECTIVES.
@ samantha - thank you for your post. I am not lookin at Snoop as the end all be all idea of what a "stud" is, that's why i welcome anyone to speak their mind. it's something that interests me in terms of understanding how people get down. at the end of the day, do you and get yours, i ain't mad at'cha. it's just a way of life that's somewhat secluded from the mainstream. thank you for your post.
Samantha...good looking. It's always funny to me as well the fascination that straight women have with the lesbian culture. Especially in the Black community. It would probably be a stereotype to say that every straight woman wants to be gay at least one night lol. But it seems like this particular blog is full of stereotypes. I am a black lesbian living in Los Angeles and have dated some very beautiful successful black women (u all would most likely consider them femmes even though they all have varied in their degree of surface femininity). As any healthy relationship would call for-- it is a 50/50 thing. Just as you would not want a man who aint about nothin, I would not have a woman who aint about nothing lying next to me. That is not a gay or straight thing thats a common sense thing. I know "studs" that are ballin and broke ones as well and I know femmes the same and all of us no label lesbians as well. As a black woman who would not really fall into all the mainstream catagories that society loves to put us in...I am not a "lipstick lesbian" nor a stud. You can check me sporting a women's suit to work, occassionally a dress if I am going to an event, to my slightly baggy jeans and sneaks when Im chillin...u can say that Im tryin to look like a boy then but to me its comfortable and always has been since I was little...oh and by the way I have not been raped or molested as a child, nor do I hate men (actually have alot of good guy friends) nor do I envy them or want to be one ...but back to the clothes...why when Aaliyah sported her baggy jeans or in the early 90's when all yall straight girls was lookin jus like Snoop with ur baggy clothes cuz everyone wanted to be TLC that was koo...The point of the matter is that clothes do not make the person. I would break the numerous stereotypes that many of you have mentioned on here. Have many homies you would be considered studs that are some of the most feminine and sensitive people to some who are really gangsta and probably could rock with some of the most gangsta niggas...femmes as well...some of the most gangsta chicks on the scene to again some of the most sensitive and fem people you will meet. Samantha said something real...do your research...yeah and www.downelink.com might help you out bcuz u will see studs who like studs, femmes who like femmes, femmes who only like studs, or something that might really blow ur mind women who look just like you who like women who look just like you! ;)
Interesting points and a whole bunch of stereotypes have been raised here.
I'm Black Bisexual woman from the UK and to be perfectly honest, the image used for this blog is very much the look of me and my girlfriend (who is biracial)
I'm very feminine and she's just so hood... Of course when we are out together, I get comments of how good looking my 'boyfriend' is and she is OFTEN mistaken for a boy. Her choice of dress and swagger is just that... her clothes and swagger, it does NOT make her!! behind closed doors her thoughts and behaviour is very much that of a woman, she vunerable, sweet, extremely loving,her mind is what attracted me to her and not her 'boyish thug look'
She has no desire to be a man, no desire to act like one, and I have no desire for her to do so. I love the way she is interchangable. I am as equally attracted to her in a short skirt, heels and her hair free, she can be as refined and demure as any other woman out there, however she is more comfortable within herself in jeans, Timbalands and polo shirts..
People love to bring up the issue of 'role' in lesbian relationships while forgetting that in EVERY relationship a more dominant role is assumed by one party. It's not impossible for a femme to dominate someone who identifies as butch, domininace is a character trait and not something that appears on assumption of a role
I would like in closing to concurr with Samantha, lesbian couples rarely use toys/strap ons during sex, personally, I feel the use of a strap on takes away from my girl, I want to feel her against my body, enjoy her fully & not a bit of moulded plastic!
Stay blessed Y'all x
Wow. I'm glad my lil blog post has opened such a dialogue.
@samantha a real life stud.
With all due respect your reasoning should be taken with a grain of salt. You're a supposed "21 year old stud living in Atl, Ga in a relationship with a "femme" for over 3 1/2 years" That means your "relationship" began when you were 17 1/2 when you were still a little girl in highschool. And then you talk about "We have both had successful relationships with men prior to our relationships with women" LOL! You started a little early! Is this a joke? First of all, if this is true, you sound like you were very, very promiscuous. I'm assuming the men you dated were your age, and if so they were not "men" they were little boys. Little girls who date little boys can not speak with any authority regarding "successful relationships with men."
You point out that "I have never been raped neither has my girlfriend." Rape is only one form of abuse that could turn a women against men. Verbal, mental, physical abuse or simply being a witness to other women being abused could also be damaging to a young girls psyche and sexuality.
To say that "The reason why studs like me or studs like snoop can pull girls like the girl in the picture is because we actually have something genuine to offer to woman/lady, not just the thought of her "jumping on my dick"" shows your immaturity and lack of knowldege regarding "successful relationships with men" If guys asking you to "jump on my dick" is the extent of your experience with "men," no wonder you are a lesbian!
And as far as "eating pussy" big deal. Anyone with a tongue can "eat pussy" and make a woman orgasm. I do it well and I enjoy doing it. But at some point the woman will always pull me on top of her and beg for intercourse. I have never ever, ever dated a woman that DID NOT want the dick. And yes, the moans of extasy are much louder than during than oral. See, what it comes down to is that a woman can dress like a man, look like a man, whatever, but unless they can grow a penis the best they can do is lick, and stick, and hug. Only a man can become one with a woman.
jgray305 said... See, what it comes down to is that a woman can dress like a man, look like a man, whatever, but unless they can grow a penis the best they can do is lick, and stick, and hug. Only a man can become one with a woman.
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Only a man can become one with a woman??? are you actually crazy?? You're obviously of the thinking that the actual act of penetration means that you are now one with your partner!! Good sex in a real relationship is a meeting of the body yes, but is more importantly a meeting of the MIND!!!
In saying that it is a no brainer that two women can share that sexual mental connection! so what if you have a Penis and can give it to a girl hard, or for extended periods of time or whatever, I can almost promise you that if that woman isn't feeling that you are 'with her' in all senses of the word.. shes not going to enjoy it as much as you think! Many hetrosexual couples can have the most amazing non-penetrative sex!
Some of the best sex I've had came from a woman, a woman who knew how to please me, to excite not only my mind and my body... okay so she had no penis, but when I looked into her eyes, and felt her being completely attached to mine... that feeling she gave me... is what REAL adult sex in a loving relationship is all about!!
I'm convinced that no man could love a woman better than another woman herself. But that's not why so many people are gay. We are born this way.
True statement! Black lesbians are either very feminine and lady like or they are the total opposite and dress like men do. And for the record, they don't fuck like niggas do. They do it better!
THIS IS A STUD SPEAKIN ON THE BEHALF OF THIS SUBJECT IT IS NOT THAT WE ARE TRYIN TO BE LIKE A NIGGA ITS THEY WAY WE FEEL COMFORTABLE CLOTHES ARE FOR ERR BODY TO WEAR U JUST PICK THE CLOTHES AND IN MY CASE I CHOOSE THE MEN CLOTHES I CAN SAY THAT FROM WHAT I HAVE EXPERIENCED THAT WE DO FUCK BETTER THAN NIGGAS DO BUT I DONT KNO THATS THEIR OPINIONS......I LOVE WOMEN TILL I DIE AND WEN I DIE BURY ME IN BASKETBALL SHORTS AND A T SHIRT
this blog is very old and silly but there is soooo much wrong with it that i have to TRY and clear up some of it. 1 clothes are just that clothes. 2 lesbians are just that lesbians. 3 lesbians often wear clothes. its just that simple lesbians are just like straight people in the fact that attraction makes the decision on who they fuck. that attraction can be based on many physical, mental, social, and cultural factors. ask your self do you like short or tall, fat or thin, hood or preppy, educated or street smart? that makes the decision. myself im a 30 year old black butch (stud)lesbian who is attracted to feminine black lesbians who are intelligent but street smart and like stud lesbians. as far as sex i believe that i fuck the best outta everyone alive but anyone with a high confidence believes the same. sex is relative attraction is relative 10 out of 10 lesbians prefer women some of them like feminine women some of them like masculine women some of the like women who don't identify as either. its not complicated its simple and specialized.
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